
The Weight of Shame and Guilt
Shame and guilt can be some of the hardest emotions to live with. They tell you that you’re not enough, that something is wrong with you, or that you’re to blame for whatever went wrong. To protect yourself, you might learn to hide, to keep striving for approval, or to shrink parts of yourself just to get by.
When Shame Takes Root
For some people, shame isn’t about one specific event—it’s more like a deep, ongoing feeling of being flawed or unworthy. For others, it’s tied to certain experiences, choices, or regrets that still carry a heavy weight.
The Many Faces of Shame
Shame can show up in so many ways: perfectionism, people-pleasing, imposter syndrome, keeping secrets, or feeling like you have to hold everything together. It often feels isolating, heavy, and filled with fear of judgement and rejection.
A Space for Healing
This is a space for all aspects of your life—the parts you hide, values that feel conflicted, the parts burdened with guilt, and the gap between who you are and who you want to be.
We’ll approach your story with understanding and curiosity rather than judgment. As you begin to work through shame, you may find yourself stepping away from the version of you that’s always managing, atoning, or hiding—and moving toward a deeper sense of peace, integrity, self-acceptance, and wholeness.
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